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How I learned to love my pale skin

I don’t remember when being pale wasn’t a problem. 

When I was younger, the threat of sunburn was forever hanging over my head. My mother was always coaxing me out of the pool for more sunscreen or - even worse - making me wear a t-shirt over my bathing suit. 

As I grew up, it wasn’t only that being pale was a problem but NOT being tan was a curse. 

10 Books That Have Stuck With Me

I was recently tagged in a Facebook post to share the 10 books that have stuck with me. I'm supposed to "not take more than a few minutes" and "not think too hard."

So, here it goes. 

  1. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire I adore the whole series and have read every book twice (starting on round 3 now with Griffin) but this is the one that turned a series I loved into a series I was obsessed with. I finished this book in broad daylight and was scared. out. of. my. mind.
  2. The Casual Vacancy Speaking of J.K. Rowling... her first post-Harry Potter book has stuck with me mainly because of one quote, which I would guess I quote once every two weeks. "How awful it was, thought Tessa, remembering Fats the toddler, the way tiny ghosts of your living children haunted your heart; they could never know, and would hate it if they did, how their growing was a constant bereavement.”
  3. The Happiness Project Changed the way I thought about life and self-improvement. It also made me a lifelong fan of Gretchen Rubin and her secrets of adulthood.
  4. The Omnivore's Dilemma Michael Pollan's ode to eating convinced me to abandon vegetarianism after 5 years. 
  5. To Kill A Mockingbird The first book that ever made me feel something. 
  6. Team of Rivals Abraham Lincoln's life offers not only the most profound lessons on how to be a good politician but also on how to be a good human being. 
  7. Good in Bed I've never forgotten how fun this book was to read.
  8. The Happiest Toddler on the Block My favorite parenting book of all time, Dr. Harvey Karp helped me see kids just want to be heard.
  9. How to be a Woman My love for this book is well-documented
  10. A People's History of the United States I'd say Howard Zinn is responsible for approximately 65% of my liberalism. This book forever changed the way I viewed the relationship between the powerful and the powerless.

What about you? What books have stuck with you?

Best and Worst Dressed at the 2014 Emmys

From left, Christina Hendricks in Marchesa; Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting in Monique Lhuillier; January Jones in Prabal Gurung; and Claire Danes in Givenchy couture. From left: Jordan Strauss/Invision, via Associate dPress; Frazer Harrison/Getty Images;…

From left, Christina Hendricks in Marchesa; Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting in Monique Lhuillier; January Jones in Prabal Gurung; and Claire Danes in Givenchy couture.

 From left: Jordan Strauss/Invision, via Associate dPress; Frazer Harrison/Getty Images; Jason Merritt/Getty Images; Frazer Harrison/ Getty Images

So. Much. Red. It got to be a little overwhelming by the end. 

At least it was exciting. Sometimes everyone plays it so safe watching the red carpet can be a little boring but you can't say last night's fashion at the Emmy Awards wasn't interesting.

(Say a word about Lena Dunham and I'll cut you. She can do no wrong.)

I found myself drawn to the more understated pieces however. I loved Lucy Lui's beautiful draping and Michelle Dockery was flawless as ever. She did however sport the dominant middle part that I found wildly unflattering on most of the stars. (I'm looking at you Christina Hendricks).

Lucy Lui in Zac Posen. Image via Just Jared. 

Lucy Lui in Zac Posen. Image via Just Jared. 

Michelle Dockery in Rosie Assoulin. Image via Tom + Lorenzo.

Michelle Dockery in Rosie Assoulin. Image via Tom + Lorenzo.

I also really loved Anna Gunn in Jenny Packham. 

Now, who got it wrong? A couple who also went for understated and fell flat. I did NOT like Kate Mara's dress which looked like a Project Runway experiment in draping gone wrong. I also thought Katherine Heigl (who unlike most of America I do not hate) looked WAY too mature in her satin dressing coat. 

Katherine Heigl. Image via GossipReporter.com

Katherine Heigl. Image via GossipReporter.com

Kate Mara. Image via Daily Herald..

Kate Mara. Image via Daily Herald..

What did y'all think? Who was your best and worst dressed?

How do you want to be buried?

Recently, I came upon an article in Fast Company that left me pondering an issue I've already thought a lot about.

What do I want to happen to my body when I die?

With her Urban Death Project, designer Katrina Spade has been working on a greener alternative for the last three years. Along with the environmental issues, the design also considers the problem of space—cemeteries in the U.S. take up about a million acres of land, and as populations grow, even more space is needed. Spade wanted to find an answer that would allow people to be buried in cities.

The design uses composting to turn bodies into soil-building material for nearby farms and community gardens, so people literally become part of the city they once lived in. A four-story building, which Spade envisions being built in neighborhoods across a city, would serve both as composter and a place for ritual, where family members could see the deceased person for the last time. The composting process would take about thirty days.
— How Do You Feel About Being Turned Into Compost When You Die?

I have always been bothered by the idea of my body being pumped full of toxic chemicals then placed in the ground in big metal box. However, I also think it's important for my family to have a place to go and feel my presence if they chose to.

I have to admit this idea appeals to me.

What do you think? What do you want to happen to your body when you die?

Dear Fellow White People

We need to talk about Ferguson. I know there is a lot to talk about - the investigation, charges against the officer, the police response.

I want to talk about one thing in particular.

Yesterday, the Pew Research Center released the results of a nationwide survey on the events in Ferguson. The major finding:

80% of black Americans think this case raises important issues about race.

37% of white Americans feel the same.

What that says to me is that many MANY white people believe we have a fundamentally better understanding of what it is like to be black in America then black Americans.

As you recall, I feel pretty strongly on issues of race it is important to call things as I see them so let me be clear.

That is racist. That comes from a position of privilege. That is a problem.

The right Ryobi tools make all the difference

I received a 40V-X EXPAND-IT STRING TRIMMER and Edger Attachment from Ryobi and a trip to Ryobi headquarters in exchange for writing a review.  

We tackled our backyard with the help of a generous family friends but - as you can see from above - our front yard was still a hot mess. Sure, there were no concrete planters but there wasn't much else either. We had two giant yews and two small but extremely sharp holly bushes planted directly in front of the water spigot and electric outlets (convenient!)